People who are close in age will often have a love-and-hate relationship.
But when some folks get older, they will find a way to get rid of that hate and keep the love.
In my case, though, I loved my little sister when we were both younger. No one had to ask me twice to share my toys with her because I would give them to her immediately. I also loved knowing that I was her big sister and boasted about it to my playmates. However, the more we grew up, the more I found it hard to love her.
Why Do Some Individuals Not Care?
So why do some people will never admit they were wrong? Why do some people have such a fragile ego and a hard time admitting they were wrong despite overwhelming evidence while for others, people admitting they were wrong is just too easy? Could some people just have a psychologically fragile ego that they will challenge obvious facts and will never admit they were no longer wrong? For some people, time is the best healer and focus only on the good things in life. But there are people who have high ego and cannot let go of their own pride, and refuse to admit they’re wrong.
Regardless, admitting you’re wrong is part of personal growth. It makes you feel good.
Why It’s Hard To Say They Made Mistakes
Are you one of those people with fragile egos who will never admit they were wrong? Why will such people have persistent and rigid refusal that they were wrong and use defense mechanisms to cover their actions and fragile egos?
The very perception was that it always seemed challenging for my sister and for people to start admitting failure. For example, when we were both in high school, our parents got us to nail care sets since we constantly changed our nail polish every week. My sister broke hers almost after two months, and my parents refused to buy her another set, so she decided to borrow mine. She went to my room and got it herself, promising to clean and return the kit as soon as possible.
I got busy with school, so I only remembered it a month later. When I asked my sister where my nail care set was, she said, “Oh, did you not get it already?”
“Well, no, I was under the impression that you would return it to me right after you finish using it because that’s what you told me,” I shot back. No matter what I did, I knew she would distort reality and repeatedly exhibit defense mechanisms to protect herself. I wondered why some people never admit they were wrong. Is it that hard to admit one mistake or start taking responsibility for mistakes? I thought if that was my inherently and unusually bad fault, I would gladly apologize and admit that I was wrong. I would even actively maintain boundaries.
Realizing You Did Something Wrong But Won’t Admit It
Unfortunately, my sister continued to never admit she was wrong, even when it came to household chores. You see, we had a shared bathroom. Since she saw me clean it once, I told her to do it the following week. After all, she had longer hair than me, and it would always get stuck on the walls and in the drain. After six weeks of leaving the cleaning to me, I decided to talk to her about it again.
I calmly asked, “Can you please clean the bathroom next time?”
My sister scrunched up her nose and countered, “Why would I? I’m so busy with cheer and school and all that.” Such people will not admit they were wrong, like my sister. I would often realize, “Why will you never accept responsibility? Why not admit that you could be wrong sometimes?”
At that instant, I believed my sister had a God complex. Some people believe that they are more privileged than others, which is why it is difficult for some people to admit they were wrong.
According to Guy Winch, a popular advocate of science and mental health, admitting you’re wrong helps you grow. Moreover, in Psychology Today a person that cannot forgive may suffer from bipolar disorder.
My Realizations Of My Sister’s Actions After Becoming A Counselor
Once I went to college, I admittedly had an excuse only to see my sister once a year. I am just one of these people who would admit that I don’t want to live constantly with her. When I started practicing as a counselor, I even managed to excuse myself from Christmas or Thanksgiving dinners with a promise to my mother that I would take her to Black Friday or year-end sales, which she admired.
During one of my lunch dates with my colleagues and people from work, though, someone opened a topic about the things we’re most embarrassed about. When it was my turn, I told them that my sister and I were on the wrong terms due to her God complex and possible deep psychological constitution of anxiety. As trained psychologists and counselors, these people asked about my recollections of her behavior.
Then, one of them said, “You may have misdiagnosed your sister when you were teens. From what you’ve told us, it’s more like she suffers from psychological rigidity.” That made me reassess the situation. I called my sister that evening so that we could catch up, and I could prove (or disprove) my colleague’s idea wrong and deny facts.
It All Comes Down To Accepting My Mistakes
I admitted my intention to meet my sister. It turned out that she had psychological rigidity, and when I told her about it, she freaked out and assumed I was telling her that she was crazy. Well, she was, but the wrong issue was a mental disorder. It’s more of a mental weakness. Deep inside, I admitted that I was wrong – people do get wrong sometimes. Sometimes, it’s not that some people have emotional strength that they will never admit they were wrong and focus on confidently standing in their lies.
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